Hello guys

I'm a gentle mommy dom (27) and I feel a bit down. Whenever I go to sites like reddit or fetlife, I keep coming across men who view me as a kink dispenser.

Submissive men claim that they're submissive, but they aren't truly. I'm not sure if I can explain this properly but they only come and start chanting about their kinks, what they want me to do to them. For example, "Hello mommy, I want you to xyz to me, please do this and that", ordering me to dominate them without even bothering about what I want. On reddit, most guys straightaway send d**k pics even when I don't ask for it. (Or specifically say I don't want it)

I don't really consider this as a true submissive behaviour. This is just someone who enjoys being dominated and just views me as their kink dispenser to fulfil their needs.

I feel truly submissive men are those who express their desire to get dominated and wait for their dom to make a move instead of shoving off their desires on them and telling them what they should do. Even if they do have desires, proper communication is a must.

I just want a guy who truly wants to serve me, cares about my likes and dislikes and what I want to do instead of fetishsizing me and ordering me around.

I'm new to the bdsm community so my question is, am I wrong here to expect/want this? Am I expecting too much and is this how it is here?

And if I'm right, can you suggest me a place/forum where I can find truly submissive men?

Thank you for reading. 💕