Bi M20 here. Extremely subby.

I was talking with a very close friend recently, and the topic of what we like in a partner came up.

He listed off several traits, ideas, and features that would make someone appealing to him, all very standard ones. (Looks, nice personality, etc.)

Mine were a bit different. It was things like "Mental fortitude" and "The ability to take control of a situation" and "Someone who I can open up to completely" and for the one that really got me questioned "Someone stronger than me." The list is longer, obviously, but those are the ones I was questioned about.

I was told I'm strange, and it's not normal for a man to not want to be the one in control. And that I should "fix" my "weird" desires in a partner.

It's not just him either, most people I know always say I'm weird for not wanting to be the "strong" one in a relationship. What's wrong with wanting to submit? I didn't even say anything weird or remotely sexual.

Why does everyone seemingly dislike the idea of a submissive male?

The worst part is, it just makes me want that person whom I can submit to even more, so I'll have someone understanding.

It's just strange. Sorry for bothering any of you here. I just needed to rant.