I’m a lifestyle Domme with over 25 years of experience. I have recently come back to it after a brief hiatus of about a year and a half, and I’m finding that many of the subs I’m encountering now are oblivious when it comes to centering my pleasure & orgasms. On Reddit I get approached by those who impose their own ideas of femdom on me, and they don’t even have the faintest idea what would arouse me—even though it’s clearly spelled out on my profile.

I also don’t like dealing with subs who only want tasks or things done to them, this is the opposite of what I want yet they seem literally everywhere here.

So I’ve decided to ask this in a forum that presumably has my back. As a sub, do you genuinely center your Domme’s pleasure, or do you see her as a person who does things to you? Dommes, are you seeing this too, or are you having any other thoughts you’d like to share? Thanks!