My, alleged, femdom interests manifested as a yearning to engage in the nuances of a responsible, hard-working woman's life, serving as a regular, supplementary interaction for her otherwise unattended emotional and physical needs. While there is arousal, I moreso attain a deep-set, existential satisfaction in successfully providing the right form of care to a woman according to her needs of the moment.

In prior, "vanilla" dating scenes, it often felt unfounded to find a woman desiring for I, as a man, to assist in meals, massage, clean, provide stimulus and be her object of aggressive affection. After enough rebuke for these pursuits, the atrophy of my love madly drove me across desperate, isolated paths, finding peace in the privacy of my own talents, but in westling fate, I eventually crossed lines with communities providing supportful ears to women whom may find benefit in growing beside someone who enjoys seeing her satisfied.

However, in my present time, I feel this more intimate, hands-on approach is less sought out in popular discussions or images, both in the general forum and my own DMs; subs are often portrayed not for practical service, but to sit as an receptive, sexual icon of a dominant woman's influence, and I don't know if this is the majority vision of the dommes, the subs or a tendency of Internet influence systems favoring spurring content.

For the dommes this is related to, why would you prefer a sub not provide supplementary, non-sexual services, and instead exist as an auxillary interaction in your personal life? What attributes do value instead?