I like being home. Cooking, cleaning, repairs, moping, serving bodily needs, being at the door when she comes home, having couches, beds and snacks ready for cuddles, etc., but I also have other personal hobbies like music, art, writing, park stolling, wilderness hiking, as well as things I'm less interested in, like travel, partying, and generally going out in public.

Lately, I've been reading a few things sent from dommes that suggest a positive attitude towards this desire of mine, but there's a subtextual air of entitlement within most of their messages, as well as some dissonance between them saying I'm perfect for them, and then telling me they'll do things I requested not to be done to me. As if, because of how I am, I have to serve them in particular, as well as this urgency to have, not me, but my services for themselves, with no gradual build up of friendship, much less a relationship.

Over the past week, between jobs and new messages, I've become extremely anxious and exhausted, trying to balance my own passions with women becoming eager to possess me, get information about me, while I'm still getting to know them and they're not telling me more about themselves. The whole thing has left me feeling even more lonely and sometimes not safe, and debating whether I should stop participating in the community and continue maintaining a solo life. A vanilla relationship isn't satisfying for me, but neither is being treated like an object outside of sexual recreation.

Now, I'm having doubts over whether I'm entering a space that I'm not truly "in to" to handle: dealing with women who prioritize their femdom over making a platonic connection of individuals who happen to share in one specific, secondary interest of my subservience. I apologize if this is upsetting; being a sub is something that I enjoy, but it is not the most important thing in my life. Within this forum, we talk about femdom in detail, and fun, creative ways to express it; it's why it is here, but between persons I want to know more than just kinks. I want to know if there's anything else going on in a domme's head, but I'm not sure how I should explain or ask.

I'm just scared, because I think I want to be a stay-at-home husband, but I'm scared that my wife is going to see me as an item for pleasure and status more so than a man she knows and loves, and I'm not sure how to address it early in a conversation without sounding prude or distant towards a woman's needs. I need some advice.