Hello E/everyone 😁

While I’ve commented much more in this sub than I do others, I wanted to create a post to address a common problem that I, along with O/others are or have experienced. This is to offer a thought for consideration in finding your partner or in maintaining your relationship(s). It’s long, but allow yourself to keep an open mind. This may not be for you but it could benefit someone you know. We have to remember what has occurred globally in the last 5 years.

One of the beautiful things about life is getting to explore it on your terms and in your time. During the pandemic, people were shell shocked by the loss of human touch and companionship. Some may have even gone feral 🤭 I’m joking, but seriously, I want to highlight that people are just becoming accustomed to life after a global crisis. We had social distancing, which I felt should’ve been replaced with “physical distancing”. For the most part, people took the social aspect so seriously that ALL contact was cut. In my inner circle, we began a lot of watch parties, game nights, and dj house party dance nights that we absolutely loved breaking a sweat to.

People are just returning to life. While in the pandemic people struggled with loneliness, mental health issues, depression, drug abuse, domestic violence, intimate partner violence, and feeling left out or left behind. Has anyone thought of education? The education gap increased during the pandemic, as did social apathy. Pain, death, and illnesses are great equalizers. No one can escape any of them nor the trauma that accompanies them.

2019 and the subsequent years that have followed have been a time that the globe has had to struggle with political unrest, social upheaval, natural disasters, and to a large degree, coming face to face with yourself. Have grace with yourself: even you are different after this. Maybe some things that weren’t important suddenly are… or things that you thought you couldn’t live without are no longer important.

Others are in the same boat. I see many submissives (regardless of gender) speaking of their awakening and disassociating with toxic masculinity and brute force of patriarchy. We all had to do that. I see groups that are refusing to allow religious dogma to ruin their relationship with whatever power they uphold and feeling confident to say, “this is my relationship with my creator AND M/my relationship with my person and no, God won’t kill me because I am a kinkster.”

I’m watching people reach for their humanity. Granted, many people have us questioning where their humanity is, but they don’t matter. I only included that to acknowledge that I’m not saying the world is candy kisses and lollipops. If nothing had happened to the world, I would understand the frustration even more. However, it happened and we are redefining what life looks like.

I think now is a phenomenal time to be patient and think about each opportunity thoroughly. To determine your standards, expectations, and boundaries. To remove limited thinking. To resolve to yourself that if you live to see this again? You will do so, hopefully with your person. If not, it’s still ok because you know yourself better now. You know that life happens and hard times pass.

Thank you for patiently reading this. Keep dreaming, keep hoping, keep pursuing the highest evolution of yourself. I am absolutely sure that you can do this. W/we can do this 😉😏💜