Maybe it is not strictly gentle femdom related, but this is the most safe kinky related sub that I feel to post in. So, there is this event, the type you find on FetLife. An event night where newbies are welcomed, even if alone, and it is all designed to make everyone play and try their fantasies. It's the type of event that a newbie like myself really looks forward to, the ones made purposely for people like me and, best of all, is near home, which, for the country I live in, is really unusual.

And then there is the girl. I met this girl weeks ago but during this week we truly connected until we made out with each other. I didn't meet her in a kinky context so she doesn't know about my kinky side at all and I would rather take this thing slowly and take my time to approach the topic. We don't label each other as bf/gf but the bound is getting stronger.

The question is the following: what do I do? -Do I go to the event without telling her anything or if forced by lying to her? -Do I try to tell her that I want to go to a "sex related" event without specifing that it is a kinky related event and risking her opposing response because she doesn't want me to have sex related activities with other people or risk her sadness and frustration because doesn't want me to go but neither want to tell me what I can do or not? -Do I tell her about my kinky side and invite her with me even if I am uncomfortable with this option right now, even if I don't want to make her uncomfortable making her to come, catapulting her so abruptly into the bdsm world and with the concrete risk that not only she may develop a bad reputation about me but in the end may still ask me to not go to that event? -Others?

I want to make clear that this event is not mandatory, I don't have to go to it no matter what but still is a pretty big deal; It would be my first experience to this bdsm world, not just a normal munch but a place where actually things can be tried and most of all would be an event near to home....plus I fear that if I don't do this things while younger then I will never do them in life.

This event is in 20 days so some things may still happen before it that could help me make a decision but I'm curious to know what you think about what I should do.

For reference I'm M26 and she is F24.