Hi, so I(31), amab, have had on going questions about my gender identity for over two years at this point. Basically I go through waves of feeling more masculine and more feminine. For the past month it’s been pretty steady feminine energy. Which I would like to explore by wearing certain clothes, trying makeup, painting nails, etc.

My problem is 3.5 years ago I was paralyzed and I’m a quadriplegic. Meaning I’m not functionally independent. Because of a lack of finger dexterity I literally can’t do anything I just listed without someone else’s assistance. Also because of my injury I moved back in with my parents. They along with some hired morning help are my primary caregivers.

So my issue becomes I don’t really know my gender identity because I can’t freely explore it in private. Has anyone else questioned their gender and had an SCI? Or does anyone have any thoughts on my situation that could help?