Hey everyone, I originally posted on a Non-Binary subreddit, and while I was given some great advice, someone told me that it sounds more like I’m genderfluid, rather than Non-Binary. Some days I feel like a boy, and some days I feel like a girl. When I’m feeling masc, I am MASC. But when I’m feeling fem, I def love to wear brand and panties and girly clothes. Originally, when I was younger, I thought maybe it was just a kink that I liked to wear girly things because it felt very sexual. Obviously as I’ve gotten older, I realize it just makes me feel sexy. Like for once in my life, I feel sexy and completely comfortable. But I don’t know how to find a balance. Because my outward appearance is very masculine: beard, body hair, etc. I quite enjoy my beard. It’s the male push-up bra. But I would also love to be able to go out wearing my girly things. But then I’d just look like a cross-dresser or bearded lady. So I’m pretty stuck here.

I also have tons of friends and family that don’t know I feel this way. My wife knows but she’s unsure about it. She still loves me but it is definitely a shock to her when she first saw me wearing a bra and leggings. She thought I was going to leave her for a man, which was not at all the case. My kids don’t know I feel this way either, but they’re both young (one is 8, the other is only 5 months).

I’m just sort of lost right now and not sure what to do. I like that I can feel one way or the other on any given day. I just wish my outward appearance could reflect my internal feelings. I love how bras make me look a little chesty. I love the feeling of wearing panties, leggings, and camis. I don’t want to give up one part of me for the other. I love being Rob the man, but I love being Wren the girl too. She’s just as much a part of me as he is. And I wouldn’t say it’s different personalities as I always have the same interests and such. It’s really just how I express my love for those interests that is different.

I’d love to talk at length about how I should go about this, so if anyone wants to DM me, feel free. But you can also just leave a comment, that’s definitely fine too.

Thank you for reading, I truly appreciate all of you ❤️

-Rob/Wren