So I'm AMAB, 28 years old, and have identified as male most of my life. I do have days/weeks even where I feel much more feminine, but haven't ever really acted on that. In the past year or so, I realized sometimes I feel more comfortable as they/them. That would immediately make me think I'd fit more into the non binary community, but I guess I don't feel androgynous enough? At least compared to others in that community.

The other confusing aspect of my identity, is although I do embrace a lot of my masculinity, I don't really vibe with my package down there. I have tucked a long time ago, but thought of it as just fun experimenting. However in the past few weeks, I have had a much more extreme feeling of dislike towards that area, feeling like it doesn't reflect what I feel like I should have. That makes me then think I'd fit more into the trans community, but can I be trans if I don't really want to change my entire presenting identity and only my genitals?

This feeling got intense enough that I ended up buying some tucking underwear, and I've been wearing them almost non stop for 3 days now, as they just feel right. I sometimes think that I am also too worried over what label I fit into, but I think my name desire to find that, is to find a community that I can talk/relate to. If you made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read, and please, if you relate, if you have advice or if you think this doesn't fit in this sub, please reach out to me!