I’m a 43 yr old mother. With so many new gender labels coming out, as much as I read up on it I get even more confused just because my brain isn’t taking in all of the information and it’s not sticking. I talk about it with my friends and people I work with and I feel like my feelings and questions gets brushed off. The pronouns I have been going with is she/her but lately I’m wondering if I am they/them but I’m not sure if I have any reason to be they/them because I’m not queer or bi or non-binary etc.

Can I get some help here with my pronouns? I’m 43 born female, cis I think because I’ve only been with men. I feel like if I was to go out with a woman, I’d go for the boyish type but never explored it. I’m not particularly fem or lipstick woman, more like Boyish (I read Tom boy is a taboo thing now??). I’ve only been with men and my current partner is a guy but if ever this relationship ends, I’m open for a new type of relationship with men or women. I have lots of gay (male, female, trans) friends as well as straight friends but lately I cherish more of my friendships with non cis people. My flag will be the Ally flag. I find myself at gay bars more than straight bars, I enjoy the company more with non cis people.

I don’t know if I am trying to identify with something I’m not because I’m so intertwined with the LGBTQ community and that I feel like I’m not just a straight female she/her and I feel like I’m more than that.

Any insight is appreciated.