So I've had an underlying uncertainty about gender for a long time, and I think it got confused in with having a not great relationship with my body but I'm doing better with that and the gender stuff is coming to a head. I'm AFAB, but I've always opted out a lot of standard feminine stuff, I have short hair*, dont even own skirts, dresses, or heels, wear minimal jewlery, very rarely wear makeup, and don't want kids, so why think of myself as a woman. I'd never tell someone they can't be a woman if they did that though.

Is there something I should be feeling to know? I've been trying out different pronouns and such online, and I don't feel any different when people use whatever gendered language with me. It's such an internal thing, so I thought I'd ask.

*I've actually grown out my hair the longest it's been in 15 years, nearly at my sholders thanks to quarentine and I'm liking it now that I know how to deal with curly hair. But until recently I had a very masculine cut, enough that I was able to argue for the men's price a few times.