Older (50/21) and open/poly here and was recently on a FaceTime date with a potential bf (19) I'm talking to.

The subject he brought up is how a majority of the older guys he's met who like younger tend to live beyond that RomCom monogamous ideal of growing up to find that one person, who's everything to you, with whom one lives in a committed relationship ever after. He said the two older men he's dated who doggedly subscribed to that belief system, actually cheated on him when given the chance.

He said he remembers just a couple of years back, joining the GSA at his school in hopes of finding a boyfriend to marry and live happily ever after.

I'm curious what the experience of other younger guys (or anyone who's come of age in the last 10 to 15 years) is. Thoughts? Of course I know there are plenty of (allegedly) monogamous gay couples out there... but when did you start seeing an alternative abounds? And how did you react to that?