I'm 21 and get to know this daddy (56) through Grindr. After our first sex, we talk to each other everyday for 2 weeks. He's very caring and usually initiate the conversation, asking how my day was, my hobbies, my childhood, my high school,... He actually remembers my stories and continue the conversation. In return, I am genuinely interested in his personality and usually engage deeper topics in the conversation.

After our 2nd sex, he went on a vacation with his family (he's married and has kids). For the whole week, I tried not to talk to him, as I didn't want to bother him in any ways.

When he returned, he said he couldn't continue with me, stating the age difference was an issue. He wished me the best, and hoped that I could find someone that I could love and explore the world with. I told him I'm not upset, and I hoped that I didn't bother him or interfere his personal life. I treasured the time we had together. We agree to stay as friends afterwards, and are able to carry the conversation forward, as usual.

While it seems like a happy ending, I couldn't deny the sadness. I know Grindr is supposed to be a sex app, NSA. But having a chemistry is a must for me to enjoy the sex, and that involves getting to know the partner. I didn't know I would catch feelings to this extent. I'm scared this would be what happens after everytime I hookup with someone.

Dear emotional guys, how would you still maintain chemistry and not getting caught up on the feelings?