I’m in my 30’s and my partner is in his late 60’s. We have been together for about five years. He is the love of my life and truly feels like my partner. However, over the last five years he has gone from being very active (swimming, biking, skiing, etc.) to being very sedentary. He wants to be active but can’t because his joints are worn out to the point where it just isn’t possible. He can walk around a bit but that’s about it.

I know that this is the reality of dating an older man and I accept that and wouldn’t trade in my relationship for anything, but it just makes our vacation options very limited. Doing anything active that involves walking more than a mile is pretty much out of the question at this point. I want to have experiences and enjoy life and do adventurous things and see the world while I still can, but I can’t do those things with my partner. I’m just wondering if anyone has been through something similar and how you have handled it.

I still want to travel with him, I’m just hoping there is a way that we can travel together and both have a nice time and see things together. Do I just take a few hours on vacations to myself and go off on little excursions on my own to do things that he can’t do? I’m just trying to find a compromise so I don’t end up just picking vacations to spots where I want to go and my partner has nothing to do. I also don’t want to just spend my whole life sitting at home. I’ve thought about trying to find another couple to travel with so that I wouldn’t just be leaving him alone if I’m going to go do something like ski or whatever, but we don’t really know anyone in a similar situation to us. Any advice would be appreciated.