Hear me out, I’m 22 single and would love to settle down and plans to get married if my future partner also wants to get married. I’ve been on dating apps for quite some time now and I have always known what type of guys I wanted to date. It’s always the older men with mature character(emotionally and mentally). Of course, I also love their childish personality as long as it is in the right place.

I’ve been talking to this older(47) guy for quite some time now. I’m such a very straight forward person in which if I am having great conversation and want to meet you, I’d tell you immediately. I did asked him if he’d want to go out and grab coffee with me, just get to know each other better. He responds and told me that he does not want to take me seriously as I am young, immature and I’m just having daddy issue and I’m just looking for someone to fill the gaps just like other younger guys.

I just don’t understand why he has that prejudice. Maybe it’s because of the past experiences he has with others but to throw those prejudice to someone with genuine intentions just because someone hurt you for what you describe they were is a big no. It might be a defense mechanism for him but please at least give the benefit of the doubt for people you have yet to get to know properly. Even if I’m young, at least I know how to treat and respect people for what they are. I can confidently say that I’m emotionally and mentally mature even with my age, I may be less knowledgeable and less experienced but I know for a fact how to treat and respect people.

People in all ages have the capacity to be emotional and mentally mature. Likewise, people in all ages can be immature. I’m hoping and praying to find someone that is emotionally and mentally mature if not, at least he has the capacity to reflect on his actions, be responsible with the decisions he makes. No one is perfect but at least a partner who has character development is better than no development at all. Lastly, kindness and respect is all it matters.