As the title says, I could use some advice. I (34m) met this guy (22m) at a nudist camp last summer and we hit it off. Not sexually, but just as two people who had a lot of the same views on things.

I’ve only been with girls and he identifies as pan sexual. That said however, I’ve always been curious about trying some things with a guy. It’s just the right one never came alone… until now.

I thought about asking if he wanted to hook up/mess around/explore last summer but didn’t have the right opportunity to do so. Fast forward a year and he’s in town for an event and staying at my place for a few days. Day 1, I pick him up from the airport, show him around town, and in the evening, I ask the question… “would you be down to messing around a bit?” He responds with something along the lines of “yeah if you want.”

We get back to my place and talk about other weekend plans abs logistics. I’m super nervous and awkward and as we’re starting to get ready for bed I ask him again if he wanted to try something. And same response “if you want to.” And I say yes.

I’m hesitant about this because I don’t hear that he wants to, just that he’s fine going along with whatever I want to. I feel pretty horny and want this to happen so we take our clothes off and get in my bed. He apologies for being inexperienced with guys. I do the same. I direct him to lay on me so we can grind. He lays on he but doesn’t really move. After a bit I move him and he moves but just lays there. At this point I’m concerned he’s not feeling it and that I’m just keeping him awake. But he reassures me that it’s all fine. Eventually I ask to touch his dick (my first time touching one that’s not mine) and we stroke for a bit and eventually cum.

After that we head to bed and it hasn’t really come up.

Apologies for the long post, but I find myself wondering if I should have just taken the lead and told him what to do and not given it a second thought. But I expected some more enthusiasm from him. Id like to try abs take things further physically before he leaves. And want to tell him that I want to fuck him. Any advice or insight? Is this common for younger/inexperienced guys? If a girl showed me this behavior id be pretty sure I’m about to get ghosted but I don’t think that’s the case.

Tldr: younger guy staying with me and we explored a bit but it was kinda awkward. I want to try again but I also want to know if I should be more direct about what I want. And am curious if his behavior has anything to do with him being 22.