I’ve been with my bf (both ftm) for five months and the sex is amazing, not frequent but fulfilling for me at least. We recently had a talk and he said he wants me to start cleaning out before sex because “no wants to see shit on their dick.” Now, there are a few problems with that: I never know if we’re gonna have sex and I know douching has some timing involved (any help with this is greatly appreciated), also I don’t want to increase my risk of STDs by 75% just to get off. I can get off alone. Can I fuck myself first and if it comes out clean I’m good? Like, I refuse to douche if there’s any other option but I can’t think of a way around it. Other than vaginal sex. Which historically makes dysphoric easily if done wrong. Maybe if I plug my ass and we use a small dildo we can do vaginal and it won’t hurt or be too dysphoric. I know I can’t take a dildo in each hole but a plug is smaller and not as deep. How do you have vaginal sex without getting dysphoric? I have sexual trauma related to vaginal sex as well but I’m willing to push through it for him. But like how do I feel like a man while having my p***y fucked?