Here is something i think is interesting and is a life experience i am currently a part of. So a quick little background about me. I am not out but i don’t exactly hide either. Basically my family dont know but i also dont live anywhere near my hometown. No one from there knows. But where i live now i have no regard to who knows. I am also a very neurotic person so i don’t really have a desire to try for a full on relationship. But i do like to have fun. So about six months ago i was on grindr and just browsing like i often do. I had gotten a message from a blank profile with only a few of the details filled out and no pics. The only thing in the bio was “just let me explain”. I was intrigued and will talk to anyone when i am bored enough. So we chatted and swapped private pics. Some details about this other was, he had never done anything with another man, and had only done so much with women. But now that he was single he wanted to experience this side of him that he has been forced to hide his whole life and still has to. And the reason why? He and his entire family are card carrying members of a white supremacy group. I almost blocked him right then. But i am firm believer in taking in full info before action. So i asked him to explain why i should not block him. What he told me, and i have since come to fully believe this to be the truth, he was raised this way but always questioned it internally to a certain extent. And its created the internal conflict as well bcs while he disagrees with the fabric of his family and community, he truly does love his friends and family or most of them anyway. But ultimately he decided that he will play the part as little as possible and to hide his true self to literally stay alive. He is working on saving up enough money to where he can leave his entire life and family and start over. But he has to work towards it. Like i said, when he first told me that, i had no reason to believe or disbelieve him. But over the months i have come to believe him. But let me remind you, I really have desire to have a full on relationship, so i tend to seek casual encounters, and i also tend to prefer discreet ones as well. Less drama. So i am not looking to save this man or really help in any way, except to have some physical fun. And boy oh boy, have we had some fun. We still do. Now i know we all know of, whether or not we partake in it or not, the bbc/ bnwo fetish. I know i have. But a fantasy i never heard of myself was engaging in a secret affair with a card carrying closeted white supremecist. And i will say that it is up there with the bbc fantasy/fetish.