TL;DR: I met with a dom top and it didn’t go great so I stay away from them

Edit: I have had some people message me saying that I was wrong and I should have taken the pain because apparently because I’m a bottom, it’s my duty to serve a top and then went as far as to tell me that I should be ashamed of myself. If you are one of those people that feel that way, I do not wish to talk to you because you clearly only live to have one-sided sex where you want to be catered to. People should be able to enjoy sex without pain if that is what they choose.

Back when I was 19, I decided to go try casual encounters on Craigslist. By this point in my life, I had only had one encounter with another guy (see my profile for my first encounter story). I found out about Craigslist’s casual encounter section and I became curious. I had two failed relationships with girls at this point so I decided to check it out and see how it would go. I met up with one guy for my first hookup with a guy in four years and it went pretty good. I enjoyed being a bottom so I didn’t have any reason to fear at that time. Scrolling through one day, I answered an ad for a older guy who said he was a “dom top” so I didn’t think it meant anything particular.

At this time, I lived in an apartment building that my uncle owned and there was a downstairs section that was used for storage. I had fashioned it to be my hookup spot with having a sofa, some chairs, a table, etc.

When I contacted the guy, he was very particular about sharing his number. He made me send my number and he called me from a blocked number which I never had anyone do that to me before but I didn’t think anything of it.

We met outside my building and he seemed like a nice guy at first but he had a little bit of a mean look to him but I didn’t mind. He was an older white guy, about 6’3” and built with a receding hairline and buzzed hairstyle. I took him to the hookup spot and we decided to get into it after some talking. He asked me if I ever been with a dominant top before and I answered “yes” because I thought a “dom top” was just a regular top like the ones I’m used to.

When we started, he told me to strip naked for him. I complied and took my clothes off (god, I miss my youthful body). He took his clothes off and sat down on the sofa. He told me to come closer to him which I did. He then started putting his strong hands on me which felt nice. I let his hands wander and he started softly saying “hmmm yes. That’s nice”. He then proceeded to force me to lay across his leg with my ass in the air. He started to fondling me using his fingers to tease my hole and spanking me. I never had someone do that to me before, it felt nice at first but he started going harder and harder. He then pushed me to ground on all fours and demanded I suck his dick. His dick was thick and long at about 8”. I took him into my mouth and did my best to please him. I guess that wasn’t enough because soon, I felt his hand grab the back of my head and force me down to go deeper. I tried to hold on and I couldn’t breathe so I started to tap out but he kept me there until I pushed my way up. I told him to not be so rough with me. He said “okay. Turn around and show me your ass again”

I turned around, still on all fours and felt his hands on me. He proceeded to grab the lube that I provided and fondle my ass but this time it was aggressive and it started to hurt a little bit. I asked him to go easy at first, he responded by shoving himself into me. I felt him enter me and started going hard and fast. I was trying to do my best but I needed him to go slower. I felt his hands wrap around my neck starting to choke me. I started feeling scared because he was being extremely aggressive. He stopped after I put my hand up to push him away and he responded to that with making me turn on my back. I begged him to slow down but he didn’t. He shoved himself back inside me and he went deep to the point where it hurt and I couldn’t take it. I started telling him that he was hurting me and I was pushing him back telling him to slow down.

After that, all of a sudden he stopped and got off me with an angry look on his face. I felt terrible because I didn’t want to disappoint him. He started to get his clothes on and I apologized to him telling him that I wasn’t used to going so rough and I asked him if he wanted to just go slowly. He just yelled at me and told me “NO!”, walked out and slammed the door behind him.

I felt so ashamed at myself because I wanted both of us to have a good time but I couldn’t how rough it was. I honestly cried after that experience. I told myself that the next time someone said that they’re a “dom top”, I would just steer clear of them because I wouldn’t want to set someone’s expectations so high just to let them down again because that’s not who I am. It was a learning experience for me. If you read this whole thing, thank you for your time.