So the title of the post basically sums up the story, but I want to give a bit of context.

I met the guy off Sniffies, (gay hookup website for the ones who don’t know) and we did the usual, exchange pics, talk, and eventually meet up. During the meet, his phone happened to go off and I see his name pop up on the screen, (for example “Brad’s iPhone”) and I ignored it at first.

We hooked up and he told me that it was the first time he’d done anything with a guy and I though nothing of it, “oh you know he’s bi and experimenting” is what I told myself. I was his first time kissing a guy too and honestly when we started kissing, he wouldn’t stop, and I was really enjoying it. After we finished, he gave me his “fake” email so we can meet again, and I went back home, I got this really bad feeling for some reason…probably the words “fake email” (He had a tattoo on his right rib cage area and that’s what helped me identify him later)

Now here’s the dilemma: I took the name I found on the phone and put it into Facebook and I know I shouldn’t have, but I found out that not only is this man a Christian, he’s married and has TWO CHILDREN…I feel so nasty tbh…he was really cute and a really good fuck, but being the “other person” kinda hurts a bit idk.

But I wasn’t 100% sure it was him bc he never shared a face pic and we hooked up in a car at 3am…so you know it was dark, so I looked at photos of him shirtless and what do you know? The same tattoo…I’m so conflicted on what to do.

Any advice? (I’m not looking for people to project their fantasies on me, I genuinely need some advice.)

I told my friend about this and she says to tell his wife..should I? Idk.

Please help, I’m stressed, lol.

Edit: I’m not telling the wife. I feel like I should, though. It’s not my place, I get that, but I hope she finds out in the future. She doesn’t deserve that and neither do her children. Also, I’ve realized to ask questions in the future and I thank you guys for that advice!

For the people attacking me tho, just how would you feel being cheated on? Seriously? If you have KIDS with this person? Genuine question? Would you want to know?

Edit #2: I was looking for ACTUAL advice, not rude comments. If you’re going to be rude, don’t bother, you will be blocked.