Me (M 19) and my partner (M25) have been together for around a month. We met on a dating app and we met a few weeks later. He lived a few hours from me. He drove down to my place and stayed with me for a couple days. He immediately asked for me to be his boyfriend said yes. On the second day he accidentally said he loved me. I told Him before hand I like to take things slow but I wasn’t upset or anything because it was by accident. He continued to say it after that and started to get mad that I wasn’t saying it back. So I gave in and said it back. He immediately was trying to move in with me but I explained I’m not ready for that and my lease doesn’t allow another person and more animals but would like a dog in the future. The next time he came he brought a dog for both of us. I was happy but worried about how we would care for her.

I was sleeping one night and I got a text and missed calls from him. So I woke up and answered. He was drunk and crashed a car into a house and ran. Was with another person and his other dog and our dog in the car. He wanted me to pick him up so the cops couldn’t get him and because of his complicated life where he lived. It was about to be a snow storm but I was gonna pick him up the next day which was my birthday but couldn’t for the snow and because my car was going through mechanical issues. That night I made him “pinky promise “ me to not drink and drive again. I take them very seriously as silly as they might sound but he also said he takes them seriously. I was disappointed in him but figured it will never happen again. He said the wheel snapped and he just happened to be drunk but I don’t know if I believe him. I got a text from his cousin who traded cars with him that he was lying. I found out she was the one that picked him up on the road as well. He wanted to get out of there and move closer to me so he moved a week later closer, but he stayed at my place first. When he came he showed up with both dogs. He said the other dog would be staying at his old place but he showed up with both of them. He was drunk. He wanted to get more alcohol so He drove us to the store. I told him to slow down but he kept speeding and almost going into ditches. Then I saw all the empty shots in his car. When we got back home he passed out in my bed. A few hours later he was standing above me in the dark and I didn’t realize for a second and he got mad that I wasn’t sleeping in the bed with him said I was being mean and didn’t know why I would be upset with him. I wrote him an explanation for him to read when he woke up. He said he would just go back to where he came from or go sleep in the car. He also got me very sick.

A few days later a small quarter glass of water with a plant in it fell on him while we were in bed. It did no damage but it got hin wet. He accidentally dropped it on himself. I laughed because I thought he also thought it was funny and seeing there was no damage and he was fine it was okay to laugh. That was not the case and he yelled “fuck you” got up slammed the door and went into the bathroom and started saying “you only care about your things you don’t give a fuck about anyone but yourself” stuff like that. I started shaking because I have bad PTSD from my past. He says he can’t help it because he’s mentally Ill but so am I. I would never be mean to a person that hasn’t done anything to me though or project my issues on them. If there’s something I don’t wanna do he tells me I’m “fuckin up his flow” and I don’t even know what that is supposed to mean. He also says I need to put in more effort. I really liked him but this is making me loose interest fast.