My boyfriend and I communicate a lot and fairly well. Recently, while on vacation in Mexico City for my birthday, he told me that he had posed a question on a subreddit about a particularly tricky part of our relationship that I don’t really want to get into here.

Later, maybe the same day we discussed reddit, I’m not really sure, he and I were talking about that particularly tricky aspect of our relationship. He expressed he was upset because he felt like my dad hates him because of what had happened and that I hadn’t defended him appropriately to my dad. I explained that I had tried, but that my dad treats me like a child and won’t listen to me. However, I promised him I would try to explain it to my dad again via an email because I felt like that would be the only way I could actually say everything I needed to say to my dad.

Earlier today, my boyfriend and I were talking about Reddit again. He had told me how everyone who responded on his post had advised him to leave me. He told me he felt like they didn’t understand the whole story and that the advice to leave me was bad advice. And he told me not to take it personally that random strangers had said what they said.

Well, I just saw the post he made. He doesn’t know I’ve seen it. And, in his post he talked about how despite caring for me and loving me, he was unsure if he should stay in the relationship because I hadn’t defended him. And, he was right, every single comment said he should leave me. They all talk about how terrible of a partner I am. And some of them also glommed on to his questioning if I may be emotionally manipulative.

And, now, I can’t help but think these people are probably right. I’m probably not a good partner. And my boyfriend is amazing, and I often feel like he is better than I deserve. So should I let him go?