Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years. Still very much in love and has been a monogamous relationship. A few months back my bf mentioned to me off the cuff one day would I ever be into going cruising. It took me off guard and I said I’d never say no but we haven’t talked about it since as secretly it kinda hurt me.

Ever since then I’ve been so paranoid he’s not satisfied with our relationship. He hardly ever wants to have sex and when we do it’s cause I initiated it. I’ve seen his porn history on his phone and it’s all orgies and cruising.

Last week, I went snooping through his phone (I know, not cool) but one thing I noticed is that on the home screen search bar (it’s iPhone) when I type in Grindr it came up as a ‘Top Hit’ app. It had the little cloud button beside jt, meaning it’s not currently installed on his phone, but the top hit bit has totally thrown me. Has he been using Grindr and then deleting it and that’s why it’s come up??

Just to note I typed Grindr into my search bar (as I would have downloaded it before I met him) and it doesn’t come up for me.

I’m so paranoid now that he’s been using it behind my back, not necessarily meeting guys off it but still, I’d be heartbroken to think he’s been on it and talking to others on the sly.

Can anyone advise me on this and regarding the top hit app thing?