Hey there, I’m 28m and my boyfriend is 36m. I live in London, and he in Belgium. I met him as a grindr hookup. Things were great the first few months getting to know him - among one of the conversations he’d tell me that he had only one boyfriend in his past, and he had developed feelings for me.

Come December after I had developed such strong feelings for him, he tells me on Boxing Day that he had a whole boyfriend that he was living with after 5 years of being together. He explained their relationship was platonic and they had no feelings left for each other but decided to cohabit… however they were still in a ‘relationship’. To this day I still don’t really understand that dynamic. Me being dumb (never been in a relationship) I ashamedly got together with him and he broke it off with his ex. Please listen out to me before you judge me. I genuinely fell in love.

I’ve been with him 3 years now from 2019-22. I won’t go into every lie but he’s lied about a few things. Apparently to save my feelings and not to make me worry because of the first big incident. Recently I went out with his gay friend who I only knew existed a few months ago when I confronted him about who he’s been texting because his online status always showed at different times. His friend let it slip he lived at his place with their other gay flat mate for a few weeks last year. My boyfriend did not mention this at all. My boyfriend made it a point to let me know that guy is a top (I’m a bottom btw) but that friend of his let it slip he hooked up as a bottom with a guy that was at a dinner party they both attended. I don’t think I’m crazy in thinking what the heck why wouldn’t this be something you mention.

So to sum up lies upon lies, and now omitted truths for a whole year. We spoke it over once his friend left and I decided to move on with him. But now I’m home genuinely I cannot help but wonder if he’s going to lie again or what his intentions are. Obviously it’s hard to understand a relationship with zero context of conversations behind closed doors, but I’d really appreciate someone’s opinion. Maybe what you’d do in this situation. Does he sound like he’s going to lie to me again?