So I (25M) found out my boyfriend (24M) had been using Grindr for a couple weeks and I caught him. He immediately confessed and used the app to talk to guys and swap pictures (face pics and nudes). He was very apologetic and emotional and said he didn’t even know why he was doing it. I tried my best to pry a reason out of him as to why he was doing that, but he said he really didn’t know, he feels comfortable and happy in our relationship in all aspects.

The reason I am extra upset is because I really thought we had such an open line of communication. We’ve used Grindr/Tinder together before, have swapped nudes with guys, and just had our first threesome days before this happened. He knows it’s something I’m interested in too, but we know it’s something we do together, and he said he knew what he was doing was wrong, and he stopped because he didn’t feel good about it.

We’ve already talked about it a couple times and he said he knows that he broke the trust between us and that it’s going to take a while to rebuild, and that he never wants to see me this hurt again. We agreed that this will be a continuous conversation for a while.

I’m just so nervous it’s going to happen again, and the whole incident has brought out all of my insecurities. Honestly, I am heart broken. I don’t see this as relationship ending for me, but I have no idea how to navigate the next little bit. I don’t feel the comfort from him I did before, I really hope it comes back.