I 36m have a Birthday coming up and im afraid my 33m will ruin it.

I have a few friends coming from overseas (I haven't seen them in 3 years) and many other friends are finding the time to get together to pride weekend for my birthday, it was amazing timing.

He hates big festivals. And he is always extra defensicve ans ciritical with lgbt events and spaces. I just know I'm going to have to drag him through it and its going to be a miserable time. I wish I had asked to go alone and addressed it then, but its too late now its all booked.

I want to say this to him "I know you aren't the biggest fan of big crowds and stuff but I rarely get to enjoy time like this with my friends so I'd really appreciate it if you could try to make the most of it, for me. I'd like to just enjoy myself and yeah there will be obnoxious and loud people and expensive drinks and lines, but there is also fun stuff and I'll be there with my closest friends and I dont want to have to be worrying about you all the time."

Is there anything else i should say? Should I even say anything? I worry saying something will make him self conciois and uncomfortable on the day making it worse.

TLDR: partner doesn't like big festivals and I want to go to one for my Birthday and want to ask him not to ruin it. How? Or will even asking make him defensive.