Me and my boyfriend have only been together for about 7 months. He is a little older (29) and is very sex positive and experienced with sex. I am 24 and have had a lot fewer experiences with other men and am still trying to own my power sexually (I am a 2x Testicular cancer survivor and am working through the shame and embarrassment of overcoming that). My boyfriend wants an open relationship because he has tried monogamy in the past and it does not work for him. Me being less experienced but very open minded about trying something new in our relationship, agreed. It’s a little bit more one sided though, as he is mostly the one seeking other people, being approached by other gays at the bar, and getting numbers- this obviously makes me feel some sense of jealousy which he notices. I don’t want every time someone approaches him or he’s chatting with another guy to make me shut down, especially if we are out in a social situation. I want to be secure enough in our relationship to not have it effect me bc at the end of the day I know my boyfriend is my person. Any advice on navigating an open relationship that is a little more one sided- as in him being more likely to have sex with other people than I would be. Not to mention there are times where I would be interested in having sex with other people but don’t know how to go about meeting these people (Grindr is off limits in our relationship). For instance my BF has a large following of gay men both on Instagram and Twitter where as little 24 yr old inexperienced me does not. For him he is able to build sexual connections this way as for me I don’t really have an avenue like that the we have discussed is an okay way of meeting other people.

Thoughts? Opinions?