This will most likely be long, so sorry in advance.

My BF (30M) and I (26M) have been together (Kinda) for over 2 years. We have broken up a few times twice for less than a week and once for a month and a half. We both live with our parents and are in school full-time rn, and it's hard to manage a sex life and social life around both of our families and schedules. When you read this, I'm sure you'll question why were still together, but we do love each other. We get along well and have a lot of similar interests.

That said I try not to hold it against him when we don't have sex for a while, and I try not to pressure him into needing to have sex with me (my sex drive is much bigger than his). i generally try not to bring it up, but will kinda try to get him in the mood if the family isn't around and I see a chance. I end up usually getting told no and that he's not in the mood, and I can't force it; it has to be spontaneous or else he doesn't get into it. He makes me feel bad about trying to have sex with him sometimes, saying things like, "You need to understand the situation, we aren't having sex much because we both live with our parents, it's not my fault"... but ill comment back that "we both live with our parents so in order to have sex usually we will have to plan for when they're not around." He usually ignores my comments and interrupts me. He'll go back to his stance, "it needs to be spontaneous," and things like that. It's so frustrating. Idk what to do I'm kinda giving up.

Another thing that's been happening more recently is he makes me feel like I embarrass him, well tbh he will say I'm embarrassing him when we go out. I will dance and drink and have fun, and it's not a big deal I'm not having a crowd around me, but he just stands there, hands in his pockets swaying, barely looking at me, like he doesn't want people to know he's here with me. Sometimes we go out with friends and were all dance together, but he has a problem when I'm doing it. Recently, I met his school friend who is gay and his bf, and a few of their friends went out to the bar with us, we were all dancing and it was a lot of fun, and my bf was making the same comments to me. Idk if they heard or saw how he wasn't dancing, but they kept asking him the entire night why he was so serious/ stoic. I brought it up and he turned it back around on me, saying, "well they're being polite; they're not gonna tell you to your face that you're being embarrassing." They went up to him to tell him several times that night that he was being too serious, and apparently, they also told him they liked me better than him lol (he told me that). It was getting me really frustrated when he kept pushing off what I had to say and just kept saying that it was me who was embarrassing. He even said that there are parts of me I need to change. So I stopped talking I literally just turned and put on the tv.

I guess the advice i want is about what i should do?
I love him, but obviously, this doesn't seem healthy. He makes me feel like I'm being the crazy one, but i don't think i am, I'm def, not perfect and I have my own issues. We both have messed up, but idk if this can continue. I don't even feel comfortable being myself around him anymore.