I have been in a relationship with my husband for 12 years, we got married in 2022, we are 2 gay men.

I've always had a strong libido. It could be due to ADHD. I consume a lot of pornography and masturbate on average 1 time a day.

My husband and I are in good sexual health and we make love at least twice a week.

However, I feel the need to sleep with other men. Not that my husband doesn't satisfy me, but rather that I need to touch new bodies and experience new things.

I suggested to my husband that we should be an open couple. He suggests that we organize 3-way trips instead of going our separate ways. I like the idea, but my husband is very set in the body types he like and I like them all. He does not want to compromise on this aspect: he love bears and I love everything type.

I explain to him that I'd also like to experiment on my own.

He told me he's afraid I'll always be off having relationships with other men and he won't because I'm a very active person and he's rather shy. He's also afraid I'll fall in love with someone else and leave him. On my part, I would LOVE to know that he is being fuck by another guy. Like I could give him a lift to his date and jerk off in the car for him to finish is date.

I really love him, we are good to each others, we talk a lot.

Do you have any suggestions for arguments that would help me make him understand why I want to open up our relationship?

Also, do you have some ideas of open couple rules we could use?

Thanks 💙