So, I'm 1) polyamorous, 2) lesbian, and 3) in Europe, which means that trying to meet people is a bit nuts right now. There is an active, close-knit Jewish community in my town which I'm very grateful for and have been making friends of all ages through... but I feel like I'm still missing someone. So I’ve given two Jewish-focused things a try recently.

Yente Over the Rainbow:

Their match survey thing is super thorough! You can give the names of people you don't want to match with because they're exes/have other bad history/are your friends. They DO have explicitly polyamorous/non-exclusive options.

You get matches twice a week and I've put in my profile the day of the week I'll check matches and messages. It's honestly a relief not to have the endless swiping. I've noticed with other apps that if you ditch them for a couple of weeks they start showing people you might actually be interested in again (to convince you that the app is worthwhile) but if you come back every day / every few days they show you more incompatible people (to waste your time so they can show you more ads). Jewish shidduch is so underappreciated.

I've seen people here complaining about YotR - someone from the US complaining that they kept getting matched with people from central Europe which is honestly why I decided to try it, lol - but maybe with a critical mass of people it would be better?

MeetJew:

I saw this one recommended here and did their little survey thing a little while ago. They haven't sent me any matches yet but I also feel like I'm a fairly specific sort of person. Survey was pretty thorough but they don't have explicitly polyamorous/non-exclusive options so I put it in the blurb a potential match would see so we're all aboveboard. Some good options for background that are inclusive of people in giyur, pretty nonbinary inclusive.

I know there are like, half a dozen European Jews total, of whom there are like three gays (barely exaggerating), so it's a relief to find things that don't assume I'm in the US or Israel. What have your experiences been like?