Hey! I'm looking for a serious relationship. NC, USA. Been out of a relationship since 2018 and feel ready to, and have the desire to, get back in. I have some experience and have been hurt very badly, thus one reason why it has been this long before really trying again. I will be cautious and not be rushed into a new relationship. But at the same time, I will not drag along with someone forever just hoping.

Sorry about the long post, but I feel I need to be upfront about a few things.

To hopefully weed out the time wasters, here are the things I'm not interested in -

Hookup Sexting Pic trade Sugar baby/daddy relationship Dead-beat conversation Forever LDR

If you are actually looking for any those things, then don't bother with me and move on.

If you just said to yourself that you're not looking for any of those things either, then continue reading.

Me : 48 yo. 5'8" 183lbs (for now, I'm trying to bring that down). Sort of the dad-bod, ig, but more like skinny-fat, lol. Just got the extra belly and chest fat while everywhere else is fine. Working on that though. Natural hair color dark brown but kinda salt-n-pepper now. Hazel eyes. American/Caucasian. Capricorn. Gaymer. Nerd. Introvert mostly. Love scifi, fantasy, and horror. Mostly homebody, but like to get out too. Religiously Agnostic. Politically Liberal. Masculine. "Straight-acting" as some people put it. I have a few pics of myself on my profile. Sexually, I'm mostly top.

You : I'm interested in guys younger than me. Age range 20 - 35 (not super strict about that, but that's my preference). Not only am I attracted more to younger guys, but i seem to connect and get along with younger guys better than those around my age and older. I'm attracted to many types, but I have an especially strong affinity to Latinos and, interestingly, Slovakian (ethnically speaking, not necessarily from the country of Slovakia) guys. I tend to lean towards the masculine guys and okay with soft fem. Would love to find a gaymer bf. Someone who is slightly extroverted would be great to complement my introvertness. Some say this shouldnt matter, but for me it does - don't be a conservative religious nut. We simply will not get along. And, sexually, ofc, I would be looking for a mostly, or total, bottom.

So if you've made it this far, and are still interested in finding out more, then I would say that's a good sign.

Now onto what seems to be a touchy topic for some, but I do feel physical attraction is a piece of the puzzle for successful relationships. It's not being judgemental. It's simply realizing we're human and have feelings of attractions that are part of who we are. And there's nothing wrong with wanting a partner that not only you love emotionally but also are attracted to physically to help in strengthening the bond between you. So, with all that said, I will state here that when it comes to body types, the list of what I'm not attracted to is shorter than what I am okay with. I'm not attracted to -

Bears Severely overweight Severely body built (sorry Arnold) Super hairy Super tall (from my perspective, like 6'5" and up)

I suppose the ideal body types I have a strong preference for are -

Slim to average Same height or shorter than me As little body hair as possible

I try not to be strict about those though. Those I listed that I'm not attracted to are the few I'm extremely turned off by.

I do require to see pics of you. Especially face pic (without sunglasses). If you're not willing to share that, then move on.

Just a note on the LDR interest. I've tried that before. Never works out for me. I get uninterested quickly if there's no in-person interaction soon. Video chat helps with this, btw. I'm willing to talk to someone long distance if there is a likelihood of in-person interaction in the near future and total openness to the possibility of relocation if/when a level of seriousness is reached at which point there is mutual interest of being together. I'm not interested in an ongoing forever LDR. I see intimacy and in-person interaction as an important part of the equation to a fulfilling relationship. There absolutely has to be a point when me and my partner are physically together or it will not work for me.

If you just performed a believe-it-or-not stunt by making it this far, and find yourself actually still interested, then you really should hmu.