I'm a closeted bi college dude and I've been interested in self locking for a while. I've gotten multiple different cages in the past few months and I really like wearing the cage, my new one is really comfy too. I decided to lock myself up mainly to encourage better habits, but also to learn to be submissive. Honestly though, I think it's been a failure. I knew from the start being locked makes you horny all the time (as if I wasn't already) but it's really just turned me into a gooner.

To make it actually work I set up a strict reward system. - If I stay in the cage for at least half the day, keep up with school, finish my workout at the gym, and hit all my macro goals (in non fitness terms that's just eating healthy) - then I would allow myself to look at gay shit on reddit before going to bed.

Usually though, I get totally sucked in. I made a rule that I could only look at reddit for an hour a day, but I always blow past that and can't get myself to stop until like 2 am. (writing this at 2:40) - I'm new to liking men, but in the past I just finish in a few minutes and thats that. Now that I'm caged, I feel like its unproductive because I'm wasting all this time. I fail to hold myself accountable until I regret caging myself in the first place. It also doesn't help that because I'm super sensitive, I can just tap through the cage for a few minutes and cum whenever I want.

I come back to it every few weeks, usually trying something new but it never really works. Basically only when I'm caged I literally have a corn addiction. The last few weeks I've been getting creative, keeping myself super busy and trying to focus on anything else, but it just doesn't work. It also doesn't get better the longer I'm locked (the max I've gone for is 7 days straight.)

My last ditch effort was to try and find a dom, or anyone really, that could hold me accountable and motivate me to stay locked, but I couldn't find one because I dont send pics of myself. - I mean its totally reasonable, just disappointing.

So, before I throw away my cages so my parents dont find them while I'm moving back into my dorm, I'm decided to ask y'all on reddit, is it even worth the time to keep trying? Has anyone else struggled with the same thing? Are there any solutions that have worked for you? Are there any doms willing to offer me advice/guidance?

thanks guys

Mikey