I’m a bi guy (prefer men) in his early 20s and I’ve wasted a horrible amount of hours just scrolling on tinder, bumble, grindr, hinge. When I think about the positive to negative experiences I’ve had, I can name on one hand how many people I stayed in touch with or had a great connection with because of these apps.

I’ve come to a point where I’m either going to look back at the hours I’ve spent in life with pride or sadness. I’m involved in a lot of social clubs and I’ve managed to make amazing friends organically in life. One time I was sitting at a restaurant and heard a family speaking Dutch (my target language) and now the guy and I are friends for life. It was purely happenstance. I would never have found that on an app.

Some part of me just believes that the same will not be said for dating in life and that it will naturally happen. My brain has a lot of lived experience to believe things won’t line up with a guy?