I am a single gay man and at this time, I’m just trying to have fun as much as I can. I don’t know if that leads to a relationship of some sort but I’m gonna leave that to the test of time.

I fought so hard to be where I am with coming to terms with myself and with people who I know, family and work. It’s not easy, I had to burn bridges with bio family for my own sake and I don’t think I need to explain this on a gay sub.

Now on to the fun part.

I come across guys who are married to a woman and on the DL on the apps.

I feel morally obligated to not enable married men without their spouse knowing. I probably need some advice here.

I hope so far I wasn’t being lied to about their current relationship with the guys I’ve had sex with.

I actually sympathize with men who are married to a woman but are gay/bi and looking to get off some how because their wives aren’t interested anymore or they themselves weren’t interested in the first place. I come from a religious background and I know there is some social pressure involved especially in religious families that got them to get to where they are now.

Married to a man but on DL is something I won’t even consider entertaining because tbh if you can be honest about your sexuality, why not sexual needs? Gay relationships are more versatile and accepted in the community than straight ones. There’s always an option to figure out what we want.

So if you are married to a woman and are someone who are trying to get off with other men on the DL, how are you able to sleep at night and what makes you to feel comfortable with it? Do you think about coming out to your wife at some point or consider opening the marriage?

I just need some advice on how to approach them gracefully without being harsh or judgmental because hey I’m horny too.