My partner and I are about 10 years apart and sex has been more and more infrequent as the years go by. I'm in my early 40s and not ready to stop having sex. My partner is almost non-existent libido and could care less about sex, so "sex" is only every six weeks or so. I put it in quotes because it's literally maybe like two minutes of oral and then jerking each other off. Actual sex where I penetrate him is even more infrequent, maybe once every 90 days. I'm a bottom for what it's worth but have had to compromise and become a top.

I have friends who have sex every day. I'd be happy if sex was just a few times per week.

Any helpful tips?

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