I (32M) have been seeing this guy (50M) for about a month now and I'm starting to fall head over heels for him. Like, HARD. I can't stop thinking about him and all that other stuff that comes with falling in love. We're very sexually compatible and have so many things in common when it comes to interests and hobbies and stuff. I've been to his place 3 times now, and each time I go over I'm spending more and more time with him. Last week I was there for 3 days. The longest so far. We've actually known of each other for a couple of years now via grindr, growlr and such and have chatted a bit every now and then. But nothing really came of it before then due to scheduling and life's happenings and all that.

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My friends and family are starting to notice that this doesn't seem like a regular fling. When I came back home from his place the other day, one of my brothers was like "Welp, let's just face it. He has a boyfriend". And I think his friends and family know of me and such too. One of his friends called when we were just chilling and heard her say "Is that so and so in the background?" and he was like "Yep that's him". We don't text each other as much I want to. But I understand that he's busy with work and taking care of his mom and such. We've both been single for about 4 years now and both of our last relationships didn't end so well. He was going through some of his accessories last time to see what he was going to wear to lunch with me and randomly pulled out a bracelet and said I could have it lol. The last time I was there we were sort of just going down memory lane and showing each other pictures of our friends and families and all the trips we've been on the last few years.

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I really want to tell him how I feel and make it official, but I'm so scared of all the what ifs that might follow. What if he's not ready for a relationship? What if he has eyes for someone else? What if he doesn't feel the same about me? What if I complicate or fuck up what we have so far by saying how I feel this early? Is this too soon to say? What if he doesn't have room in his life for someone else? I really feel I need to tell him how I feel next time I see him, but I'm so fucking terrified to be quiet honest. What do you guys think I should do?