I recently deleted my apps a few days ago, and I feel better for it. Before I did, I was talking to a guy that tapped me on Grindr. We actually texted on the app like a normal conversation, which was a breath of fresh air. He actually gave his number, which I also thought was abnormal, but given the conversation was going very well, I asked if this was tied to an iPhone, which he confirmed. This allowed me to be comfortable enough to contact him through my iPad since this was not tied to my personal number. We exchanged video messages confirming our identities, and then we had a long conversation over facetime. The interaction went really well, and so we also shared our snapchats.

In the midst of our conversations, we arranged to meet last Thursday as that was the day he had off, and it would allow me to be able to make the hour drive since he was a couple towns over. We had one more Facetime conversation that also went very well. We would also text throughout the day before his shift at his job. His replies were brief, but when he had time for facetime, he was way more engaged, so I didn't think anything of it at the time, especially since he had a busy schedule.

A couple days before, I started to notice a shift. Responses weren't even full sentences any more, they were like one word responses. Requests to factime and snapchat were being denied. I wont get into specifics, but things that he was down to do before, he wasn't willing to do atm, which I respected and didn't make a big deal out of it. When I told him "I hope i didn't offend by asking," he replied, "You didn't, just not interested atm." I texted him a day before we were supposed to meet and he confirmed that we were still on, and the place where we'd be going to eat. I left the conversation at that. So the day of, I check in to see if we were still a go? He texts a couple hours later, and he says he woke up not feeling well, and wasn't sure if it was just temporary, or if it was actual sickness. I told him that we could reschedule and that I would rather he get better, but in my head I was thinking, yeah i've heard this before. He actually texted and said "Let's wait to see, i might be better later, just text me." So I texted around 3, and he said he still wasn't feeling well, so I told him to get back to me when he feels better and left it at that. At that point, when I day that, I am laying the burden of contact at your feet, and will not contact you unless you do in a relatively reasonable amount of time.

The next morning, I happen to go on Grindr because I received a tap and wanted to check it out. Wasn't anyone I was interested in, but in my messages, I see the guy I was talking to's profile had a green mark. At that point, i decide to block him from Grinder, and block on snapchat. I hadn't blocked him on my personal phone or iPad though because I forgot to. I don't hear from him until 11 o'clock last night, and he texts me the folowwing.

"Sorry I have been away

I have been lost in myself

i'm going on vacation

maybe that will help"

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After talking with my friend, who said "boy bye", I blocked him from my other contacts. To me, it comes off as really odd, especially since he would have seen I blocked him on the other apps. It just came off as a desperate cling for my attention, but 5 days later man? Sorry, I'm done with the bullshit, which is why I deleted the apps. That has been my experience. I've got too many good things going on in my life. I just got accepted for a promotion after 2 interviews, i'm in the best shape of my life, and my drip is better than ever, I have good friends I keep in contact with, and I have a roof over my head that is nicely furnished. If love comes along, i'll receive it, whether it be in passing, a redditor w/ face pic and aint creepy, or any other way, but i'm no longer actively seeking it. I go too much good in my life now to keep putting up with bullshit. What are some of ya'lls red flags you've noticed in initial dating phases? Although i'm not reversing my decision, do ya'll think I could have handled it differently or would you have done the same? All replies are welcome.

Edit: Also forgot to mention that I asked if he wanted to facetime since he wasn't well enough to meet up, and he said he "Looked a mess, so no." Clearly bullshit, as he wasn't all dolled up before.