Hi there, thanks for reading.

Hopefully the post makes up for the uninspiring title.

I've been interested in the kink scene basically since puberty. Early days I was definitely a sub but as I grew as a person I have become much more dominant; in kink and in day-to-day life.

Now I'm an owner of a slave in a TPE dynamic lasting over four years, a husband, a father, and a manager in my professional life. That's a lot of being in charge. And while it's my core personality and I'd be lost not being a leader, I do end up craving a space where I'm not in charge.

I've mentioned my wife. Yes she knows I'm here, we met on FetLife. There's just some ground rules to playing which I'm happy to explain in the future.

Submitting to me definitely has a strong mental component. It's not just about getting off (though I'd be lying if I didn't say I get turned on). But I struggle with submitting to someone that I don't have respect for, that I don't think I can trust with that submission.

For the Dom that I find the right connection with I quite enjoy adding themes of inherant inferiority to the play to further cement their power over me. As a straight, white, middle-class male there's something appealing to a dynamic that involves a dom letting out some of their repressed frustration out on my as a proxy for society.

Appearance wise I have a smooth shaved scalp and neatly trimmed dark beard. I'm told I'm handsome, but that's of course subjective. I'm 6ft tall and 240lb (183cm and 120kg). Dad bod is the best description of my build currently. I'm very unhappy with that though and working on fixing it (yeah I know, we all say that). Though it should be said I'm always going to be a "bulkier" build. I naturally carry a good amount of muscle in the legs and arms. So don't expect a string bean even as I lose weight.

Time for a kink list, bear in mind I'm happy to talk/negotiate if you see something that's a deal breaker.

**My likes:** Verbal humiliation/degradation, SPH, CBT, Pain, Some anal stretching, Watersports, Bondage, Spanking, Bladder control, Enforced exercise, Forced Bi, Inherant inferiority.

**My interests:** Hypnosis, Sensory deprivation, writing tasks (writeforme.org or linepunishment.com), forced bi.

**My dislikes:** Semi-public, Anal fucking, Roleplay, Chemical play (icy hot, toothpaste), Ice, Urethal play, Hot wax, Edging, Orgasm Denial, Crossdressing, Ruined orgasms, Enemas.

**My limits:** Findom, Public, Shaving, Chastity, Fire play, Extreme pain/Permanent damage, Make up, Scat, Messy, Gross, Dancing.

I'll finish with a few words on what sort of person I'm looking for. I'm generally open to anyone as a possibility, so if I'm interesting to you I'd love to hear from you. But the following are some guidelines on traits that help ease things.

Sexual attraction is one of the biggest aiding factors. More femme presenting is more attractive to me.

Aside from being of legal age I don't set a limit on age. Though I find around my age or older to generally be more compatible just due to a better understanding of what this stage of life is like.

Thanks for reading. Hopefully I hear from some of you soon.