So, admittedly, I dropped out of the scene for a while, and haven't had much in the way of interaction for a few months at least, but I am pretty specific and prepared about what I'm looking for, so read-on if you're looking for a dom who's organised and not in a rush for a 'quick fix'.

About me

28 years young, I'm a bigger guy, and would consider myself to be something of a perfectionist when it comes to organising. I'm fairly career-focused, but have been soul-searching and trying to pinpoint the missing piece for a while now, and have come to the conclusion that I'm only really truly in the right headspace when I have a submissive by my side. I'm from the UK, although as I engage mostly online, I am not particularly worried about where you are located.

What I'm looking for

TPE is where I find myself leaning far more than anything else, and not even necessarily in a sexual sense (although that aspect is important, I know), I like to mold and develop my S/D relationships to focus on the lifestyle needs of my sub, listening to and learning about your daily life, helping you identify and achieve your goals through structure, discipline, and conversation. I'm a task-setter, and like to find ways to help you keep track and keep-up with what I'm asking of you, in the least confusing way possible, and everything is an open-ended conversation, so I don't expect miracles from the first second, but I do expect a commitment to improvement over time.

I'm not looking for an 'evening of fun' - I'm looking for someone who is dedicated to becoming a TPE sub and understanding that the ideal can take time, and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out, but I won't be immediately engaging in sessions, so if you're looking for a quick fix, don't bother reaching out.

I don't have a preference for type, shape, height or size, just have an open-mind and be over eighteen, and we'll get along fine, I will admit that I struggle with the 35 age range, so I'll probably go ahead and say that's not what I'm looking for at the moment.

I am not interested in having multiple subs, I like to develop one healthy relationship, I'm not a "slave-master" or anything.

TPE Specifics

I am experienced in all realms of TPE, but mostly I like to have control over daily tasks, outfit choices, eating habits, activities etc. I have dipped into the realm of social account control etc, but anything finance-related is off-limits, I am not comfortable with you sharing information with me that provides access to your highly-sensitive information, and will never ask for it. I know this can be disappointing for some TPE subs, so if this is a dealbreaker, please understand and move on.

What I Expect

Firstly, I'm not a photo vault, if you want a service to send your photos to and store them, I recommend something like Google Drive or iCloud. I don't expect you to show your face, and I have a policy where I don't require photos of any kind from you either. If we have a conversation, and agree that you would like to send proof of task completion etc, then I will agree, but it isn't a requirement, at the end of the day, if you're serious about developing as a sub, completing tasks is your responsibility.

I have a simple mindset, be honest, respectful and comfortable. I expect you, for your own development, to not lie to me, as it achieves nothing. I expect you to be respectful, address me as you'd address a superior normally, 'sir' works just fine, although I go by Kai so don't feel like you're banned from using my name, just know that it's not always appropriate, and when completing tasks or being in headspace, I expect the respect to carry through. And most importantly, be comfortable, and open about how you're feeling, I'm not a chatbot, and I'm not a perfect mirror of everything that works for you, so if something doesn't feel right, I expect you to tell me, even after going over your wants and limits.

Most importantly, just be serious about what you want, I don't suffer fools lightly, and will pick up pretty quickly on how serious you are about this, as I've been doing it for several years now.

Kinks & Limits

Kink-wise, I'm very adaptable, but am very into TPE, pet-play, pup/alpha, collaring, JOI, WS (light).** And there are more, but these can be opened up and discovered as time progresses. I'd be keen to know all about yours too, so don't think my kinks are fixed, I can work around most things.

As for limits, I am completely against Findom, Illegal, Public, Blackmail and Exposure. I'm not a bank, I don't need your money, and I don't need either of us to be arrested in 50 years when they pull all of our messages through some supercomputer. I also won't ever take any priority over your family, friends and anyone out in public, it's your life, and it's important that our first conversation is very much about how much control you'd like me to have.

Communication

Telegram only: kaigbek

I don't use Snapchat, because the belief that it's private or anonymous is laughable.