I went out with a guy for 8 years who was not very nice to me. He was 10 years older, but I had the more lavish life. About 4 years into our relationship, we purchased a place together. Shortly after we did that, my business started to fail and i lost a lot of money, 2 family members had health issues and i needed to be a caregiver. With the added stress, meant I gained some weight.

My bf told me that I was too fat and he wasnt having sex with me anymore. That added stress caused me to gain more. Looking back, had a six pack before I was by no means fat and not sure why I let him get in my head.

After about 4 months of no-sex, I ran into a straight guy from college who we used to jerk each other off. I thought, my bf and I aren't having sex and this guy and I aren't having sex were just doing something we would have done solo.

That evolved into me looking for others, because i wanted to have sex. My bf and I Broke up 4 years later, but never had sex in that time. It's been about 5 years since we broke up. He's been trying to hang out and wants us to be friends. Should I come clean about this, if we meet up? Does anyone really want to know this after relationship over?