Hey all,

(I've read the rules and hope this is the right tag!)

I used to be quite active on here not too long ago, until one day my libido just kinda died and my enjoyment of kink has been replaced by shame and frustration.

I used to be quite active in the more extreme kinks - power play, denial, humiliation and misgen etc. However recently any enjoyment of kink of any kind has resulted in shame and not being able to gain pleasure from them like I used to.

However I also struggle to get off without at least an aspect of kink, so I'm left in a limbo of not having much of a sex drive, feeling shame towards kinks that previously would get me feral, and not being able to get off at all.

My T levels are good and I'm a year post hysto with no complications so it's definitely a mental thing rather than physical.

Has anyone got any advice for improving things so I can begin to enjoy being sexual again?