I've been out at my job for a couple months and this week we had a Christmas party so it was the first time my coworkers saw me out of uniform and out of the workplace context. For info, i've been working there for 3 years. That's when I was hit with something I expected, but still caught me off guard when it actually happened.

People will not shut the fuck up about me being trans, even if they're supportive.

I appreciate your support, acceptance and kind words, truly, but I don't need you to repeat them for an hour. It's okay if you make a mistake, just correct yourself, don't dwell on it and don't apologise endlessly. To be fair, it's way better than hatred or ignorance but it's still annoying.

No, I don't want to hear about every single trans person you ever met, I don't want to hear about your friend "Samantha that used to be Samuel", I don't care that you "like trans people but not when they make it their whole personnality"(ironic), I don't want to hear an in depth analysis of that one person you met that detransitioned and how that might apply to me or how transitioning is somehow "pushed" on people. Stop it. The worse is the well meaning cis persona that comes with it, you're still vomiting anti-trans rethoric no matter how much you say you support me.

I don't want to tell you about my dick, my hormones or my boobs, I don't want to educate you all night and keep being "corrected" by people who don't know shit. I don't want to debate the acces the trans care and how my human rights are somehow polical.

At least my coworkers around my age(early 20s) don't make a big deal out of it and I had great conversations with them about lots of stuff, sometimes transness when relevant, but mostly about dnd and other nerd shit I love.

Also shout out to one of my coworkers, a cis woman in her 30s. While she is really curious, she's also super considerate of my boudaries and supportive in a way that feels really genuine. She's the only person at work I enjoy talking about my transition with because she's just as exited as I am and she doesn't make me feel like a research project. Just as we left she gave me a hug and told me she was weirdly proud of me despite not being my mom lol.

Anyway, i know I'm preaching to the choir here but I had to vent, this is the first time this happens to me and I know it won't be the last.