I recently had sex with a gay man for the first time. I successfully topped using a strapless dual ended toy. It’s a vibrating purple toy I got from lover’s playground. I wish it was flesh colored but it is what it is. He wants to hookup again and I really want to have him suck me, we’ve been dirty talking using that language, but I’d like to make it work without him actually sucking on my genitalia. He might be willing to try sucking a t dick, I just don’t want to have that conversation rn.

The dual ended toy wouldn’t be good for this bc without the vibration on it doesn’t feel like much and isn’t skin toned so wouldn’t even aesthetically be pleasing for me. Would a stroker work well for this? Or is opting for a aesthetically pleasing strap that may not be very physically pleasing my best option? I don’t own a stroker and never pumped. I heard you have to pump to use a stroker, if so this is a investment for me for sure. That’s why I’m asking before I buy.

Thank you.