I live with my grandmother. Me and her were really close, understanding and talked about things that were bothering us including if the other person was the problem.

Since just before I began testosterone eleven weeks ago, she's been making comments about my going through with medically transitioning and making me feel really guilty about it. She makes me feel like my transition is causing harm to her and her mental health. When she first started doing this, I had a couple conversations with her as gently as I could addressing what she was doing and how it made me feel, she seemed to take them in but would continue with the same behaviour shortly after each talk. I thought she was just anxious and worried for me, which is understandable.

I later had more firm conversations in tone about the issue, telling her we had talked about this and she really needed to stop saying these things. She became passive aggressive and very snappy towards me and everyone in general.

About a week ago, I had a conversation about my upcoming top surgery consultation, letting her know the plans I had to go to it etc because it was of course, important for her to know. She said a few minutes after we stopped talking, "Don't you think this is happening a bit fast? Shouldn't you think about this?". This really irked me. It was like a last straw. I didn't raise my voice at all but very sternly replied, "Do not talk like that. I've told you how that makes me feel when you do that multiple times. This is making me happy, can't you just understand that and not make me feel terrible for transitioning?". She looked all sad and then I left the room, I felt too angry and was worried I would be too harsh if I continued. Since then, she's spoken maybe thirty words to me, she's not eating much, she's not sleeping and is being incredibly passive aggressive, slamming doors, yelling at me when she talks to me, then muttering insults when I walk away after talking.

I can't fucking stand this. I don't know what to do, it just makes me angry and sad, I want to talk to her but it's been months and I can't get through to her.