I have an awful habit of going on grindr when I'm feeling bad about myself and I met up with this guy that was just a building away from me. It started out fine, he seemed totally into me and I even asked if he's aware I'm trans and if he's into that. He said yeah!!

Cue the most confusing, disappointing sex ever. He would not stop asking really weird questions like "So you were born that way? How does it work? Do other people know you have [afab parts]?". Mind you, he was doing it while I was riding this guy the entire time (he also felt the need to point out I'm heavy and need to lose weight. And that my chest doesn't really do much for him).

I was so excited and pumped to feel desired as a trans guy, instead I got really turned off and just prayed he will be done soon.

He also seemed really clueless about my kind of anatomy? I heard rumors cis men know jack about vaginas, but he startled when I got wet and other stuff I won't get into. It was just really bad. In middle of my last ditch effort to get him off quickly with a head he started complaining about his UTI and asked ME what he should do about it (????).

Summarized that sex with a trans man was so a d so for him ("there are some things that are a turn on but also some turn offs") Then he shook my hand, thanked me for sex, and sent me off.

I feel... confused. And I feel really bad about myself now too. I never had this happen with other guys I was the first trans guy to bang for. Apparently he was already texting some other trans guy before but couldn't meet due to conflicting schedules and god heavens I pray for that poor sod.

No clue why I'm even putting it out here, but this whole encounter felt like a fever dream. I ended up blocking him and moving on.