I never understood the backwards or arrogant logic of this, but for some reason, when I want to get to know them and become friends it's no results as if they are closed off to the world unless I entertain them or somthing.

But when it comes to somthing less pressured and easier for both of us, like me offering to provide free services of entertainment, skills, and guidance.... sudden people are telling me most won't accept this or tell me unless I am friends with them? This just seems like some narcissistic ego bullcrap, but why do they think they deserve my friendship in exchange for me helping them? Like if I was there friend I would never go out of my way to help them and make it transactional, as to me this crap is business, and mutual benfit, not about appreciation or bond.

Can somone help explain this strange behavior I keep running into or being told about?

Also can somone help me understand the mentality of this, as it seems so odd to me (like mabey thus is why people struggle because they don't take the opportunity or work with others to make things easier)

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I ask on this sub as people seem to associate business with friendship, and I want to understand it better from those who may agree with the mindset that confuse me (as to me helping is a casual move, as I enjoy it, but don't want a friendship based on using eachother, as to me friendship is somthing personal, and somthing valuable)