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Hey everyone. So I really need advice because I don’t know how to feel right now. So I have a close relationship with my gay best friend. WE ARE FRIENDS. Nothing more. And I used to travel a lot for 2 years and worked crazy amount of hours. But I made time to catch up to those who I want in my life. Even if it’s just 5 min a day.
However with my GBF, I did talk to him how upsetting it was that I was always reaching out to him and always thought about him. Even if we’re living our separate lives, at the end of the day it’s takes 2 to make the friendship work regardless. It’s been a while since we had this talk this year but when I had my surgery we didn’t hangout until I would recover and I was just sending memes through Instagram during my recovery.
At some point I had enough just doing that and I was able to hangout but he didn’t check up on me at all about my recovery, or as much as I would’ve liked. So I stopped contacting him for two months to see if he would reach out to me. He never did. I talked to him after the 2 months because I was so upset and he has no idea how I felt when I already talked to him about this once. I got even more angry when he said that he has gotten into a relationship with his boyfriend that I never knew of during the time I was hoping he would reach out.
I have an abandonment issue and I’ve been in situations where my closest friends been in relationships and forgotten about me. We still talk but with my other friend right now it triggered me so bad when he told me has a boyfriend now. Even though they only been seeing each other for a week and a half, it felt like a slap to my face because during those 2 months since it felt like he wasn’t trying to put me as his priority even when I made sure he was always acknowledged and I made sure that I thought about him.
I never felt this form of jealousy because I always make sure to let my friends that I appreciate them and thank them for being in my life and helping me get through tough situations. I feel bad because his boyfriend supports him reaching out to me and make sure I was ok. However, it feels like he never updates me about his life and I always do. Am I in the wrong and crazy for wanting at least 5 minutes of his time?
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