For me I am fraysexual, my wife of 7 years is demisexual with a low sex drive.

It's been so frustrating my whole adult life of losing sexual attraction after a few weeks or at best a few months. Kept being told I just had not met the right one yet that was why. So thought I really had met the right one, and she is the right one, but still lost the darn sexual attraction, but love her deeply and we have a great relationship.

She is not bothered if we have or dont have sex and ofcourse either am I being Fray so we kind of meet in the middle so that works. However, I do have a high sex drive and wish there was a way to still enjoy sex again atleast sometimes, even if just once every 6 months. We have talked about it as we talk about everything and no way would I leave our relationship just to enjoy sex again, but gosh I miss it. We do have sex around once every 3 months which is the sensations ofcourse are enjoyable for us both, but no excitement for me or her, more just a chore for us both.

She is not keen on us having any kind of poly relationship unless we knew the couple personally ie not met them online or at any kind of club so can you think of any other solutions? Guess I just have to accept I am fray but have a happy relationship and it's better than risking it to find someone who is happy to have a poly relationship and not knowing if it would would out, whereas atleast with my wife I know it has worked out in terms of a stable and happy marriage, apart from the sex aspect.

Plus for me I am not 100 percent sure is anything to do with a emotional bond that forms which is the cause of the sexual attraction disappearing, maybe the sexual attraction just disappears anyhow after just a few times regardless or an emotional connection forming or not, does that still mean I am fray if this is the case or is there any other term within the asexual spectrum?