I have been worried about this conversation...

Her two brothers are intact, but she wouldn't know that.

Her husband is (99% chance) circumcised. So that's what she is familiar with.

She is a public health researcher and has worked on health issues in Africa.

She is very familiar with the widespread use of circumcision to prevent the spread of aids in Africa.

I have been gathering resources (including studies from other countries such as Denmark and Canada that conclude circumcision is not effective in preventing aids) that are against circumcision - all in preparation for the big talk....

This week we are at my niece's wedding.

We wound up taking a family walk yesterday and it worked out that we were alone. Just her and me. No spouses. This is it, I thought. The right moment.

She is expecting.

The time is now, I thought. No more time to waste.

I started.

We discussed a lot: Circumcision, restoration, declining circumcision rates, the problems circumcision has caused me, the African studies, the differences between intact and circumcised, breaking the cycle, that her brothers are intact, how restoration works, everything.... 30 minutes of frank discussion.

At the end she confirmed that if it's a boy she will keep him intact.

Next up, a conversation with my niece, but I'll wait until after the honeymoon...

I am having more and more conversations about this topic. Some go better than others. Fortunately this one went well.

Every boy saved helps to break this cycle.